Friday Favorites: Baby Gear & Clothes

Seeking advice from and swapping opinions with other parents about preferred brands and kids items is the number one way I shop for my children. Over the years I've purchased, loved, hated, replaced and repeat purchased a lot of things. Here are a few of my all time favorite items for babies.

Puj Tub is something I've now purchased twice (only because we thought we were done after baby #2, but surprise...#3 came along). This tub is not only a space saver as it lays flat compared to the larger, non collapsible infant tubs, but it's easy to use, easy to clean and fits in just about any size sink making bathing a baby a lot less intimidating and cumbersome.

Tiny Love's Classic Developmental Mobile is unrivaled, in my opinion, as for all three of my children, it has been the #1 favorite item above any play mat. It's easy to assemble, easy to attach to the crib without harming the wood, provides a multitude of options and honestly, my kids have all just been so incredibly excited to look up at this mobile that it's been one of the best "babysitters" of all time.

Vulli Sophie the Giraffe is a staple of infancy. I can't explain the obsession my children have with this toy, but one squeeze, one squeak, one giraffe leg in their mouth, and it's love.

There is a reason that the Marpac DOHM-DS, Natural White Noise Sound Machine is a #1 best seller on Amazon. The product description on Amazon boats that this product was "named "Official Sound Conditioner" of the National Sleep Foundation." Instead of a digital recording, it has a built-in fan that creates the sound of rushing air. Choose high or low speed, then twist the cap to increase or decrease the size of the sound hole openings. By adjusting the speed and sound openings, you'll customize the volume and tone to find a soothing white noise that's ideal for you."

The BABYBJÖRN Travel Crib Light has been the gold standard for my family when it comes to traveling with our children. Unlike some of its competitors, it is incredibly lightweight, fits in an easy to carry bag and the frame is all one piece that assembles easily and within a minute. The mattress offers the perfect amount of pad. This crib is also the perfect size for travel --  requiring less space than some other similar products, which gives you more options for how to arrange your room when traveling.Crib comes in multiple colors.

H&M has incredible clothing and accessories for babies and the line includes items made with organic cotton. The patterns and styles, even for babies, are what you would expect from H&M. From basics to more stylish pieces, two infant wardrobe items that my children have lived in include the side snap bodysuits (I love the side snap vs. having to pull something over babies head) and the footed tights. Both items come in 10 different colors/patterns.

I am in love with Target's Circo™ Baby 2-Pack Footed Sleepers. When it comes to baby sleepwear, I am picky (or maybe just lazy). I only purchase footed one-pieces that zip as I always mismatch the snaps on the other one-pieces and become frustrated at getting everything snapped together when it feels like I change my baby ever hour.  Not only do these sleepers zip, but they zip from the bottom up vs. the traditional top to bottom zipper. What's the benefit? It means for late night diaper changes, you can easily access the diaper by just uncovering your babies legs, leaving them still cozy on the upper half and less disturbed in hopes that you can do a quick change and put them back in the crib. Genius!

Wee BOOTIES are my latest obsession. I was lucky enough to receive a pair to review and there's nothing I don't like about the BOOTIES. I gravitate to all things practical for my kids, but never want to compromise on quality or style. Wee BOOTIES are the solution for keeping tiny feet cozy in any type of weather as the styles and materials vary. The ultimate staple for a baby wardrobe or the perfect gift for a mama to be.

Food Bullies. Going Nuts Over School Food Policies.

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"We have a nut allergy in our class."

Whether this is a statement announced at back to school night, a letter or email issued to parents from a teacher or a sign posted outside your child's classroom, inevitably, or so it seems, the parents of the children who do not have the allergy sigh heavily, roll eyes, mumble something to themselves and later complain to a sympathetic ear that "Ugh. There's a nut allergy in the class. This is so annoying."

To all the parents and caregivers who are annoyed that some schools establish nut-free policies, I'm sorry. Genuinely. I get it. I was once you. I understand that any added inconvenience when it comes to getting kids to eat meals and having to prepare food other than what your child may prefer is annoying. I know that not being able to just grab any type of cupcake or cake for your child's in class birthday celebration usually requires an extra trip to a store you may not frequent. I recognize that you may feel that my child's allergy is becoming your problem and that's annoying. But I prefer you being annoyed to my child being dead.

I could go on and on and surely back and forth with other parents about the pros and cons of nut policies. As someone who doesn't believe in their absolute effectiveness, I assure you I'm not just on one side of the conversation. And I am very aware of the arguments and validity over concerns and sensitivities surrounding children with diabetes, parents who choose not to immunize their kids and needs to properly honor religious customs. Again, I don't sit on just one side of the policy and recognize that there are issues beyond nuts that aren't addressed. But regardless of the policy the biggest thing missing from the conversation is the child who has the allergy. The driver of the policy is the one with the smallest voice.

To my surprise, I've learned that it's not uncommon for schools to separate children with food allergies from other children at meal time. The same strategy for disciplining kids - putting them in time out or in isolation from the group - is the same strategy implemented for food allergies. So those who misbehave and those who have allergies are treated the same. My child feels punished for something he didn't do. We've traded a policy intended to keep children physically safe for a policy that socially alienates children.

Think about all the books, TV shows and movies we've all seen about the social dynamics of lunch time in schools and then imagine those dynamics starting at the age of four. From a young age through adulthood, meal time is a social time. It's a time when we interact with one another. For children at school, it's a time to talk with friends, meet new friends, laugh and swap stories and participate in the social aspects of meal time. Unless of course you have a food allergy and your table is chosen. And in the worst cases, this means your child could be eating alone or that he or she may be the "brown-noser" who eats with the teacher. In any case, these children are identified as different and by all measures, ripe for teasing.

Handled properly, we read stories such as this one When A Teachers Email About My Sons Food Allergies Made Me Cry. It's a heartwarming moment for a mother of a child with severe food allergies who otherwise is virtually always excluded from classroom celebrations that involve food, and a teacher's sensitivity to wanting that child to feel more included. This is the rare exception, however, or so it seems. What feels more like the norm is Dear Teacher of My Food Allergic Child in which a parent of a child with food allergies pens a letter to the teacher of her daughter explaining that the ways she is excluded from the class and alienated because of her food allergies has completely diminished the positives of attending school.

While having a child with a food allergy in the same class with your non-allergic child may feel like a nuisance, think about how little is asked of you to keep the allergic child safe. One meal a day at schools where parents pack a lunch. That's it. As the parent of a child with food allergies, I don't make any special requests at play dates or birthday parties. I know to pack an extra meal, specific snacks or a substitute treat in case my child can't eat what is being served.  And my child doesn't cry when there's a cake he can't eat. He doesn't whimper when there's a snack he can't have. He knows his allergy is serious and it's important to make safe choices. So, if a four year old can handle the burden of a life with food allergies, why does it seem like adults have such a hard time?

The thing about food allergies and children is that it's not all about the allergy, but it's about how we react to them and how that is what affects the child. It's heartbreaking that it's not enough to worry about my child's safety, but that I need to worry that adults won't create an environment in which he's bullied for it.

Nothing Runs on Empty. Except Parents.

Today is the day when being the mother of three children has completely emptied my tank. And it's not just empty, the tank is bone dry.

I just looked at my infant and said out loud, "We did it. We made it through another night." And although I just celebrated making it through another hideous night of fractured sleep and feedings, I am already overcome with anxiety about getting through another night with my three month old. #tankempty

My work hours are 24-hours a day, seven days a week. And my office is my house. As someone once said, "parenting is the only job you never get to go home from." Ain't that the truth. In this "office" of mine, all phone calls are conference calls as I'm rarely able to limit the number of participants to less than two. Given the number of people who accompany me into the bathroom, all bathrooms in my home feel public. I'll never get a raise. I'll never get a bonus. But I do receive regular "reviews" that come in the form of feedback such as "But Mom, you NEVER let me use the iPad." My office mates feel more like cellmates, or so I imagine.They are all up in my business and don't contribute to my productivity. In fact, they are the ultimate detractors.

It doesn't matter how much coffee I drink, how many sugar free Red Bulls I consume. I'm not just exhausted, I'm depleted. Welcome to parenthood.

I remember before I had my first, someone said that the sleep deprivation is unimaginable. What no one told me is that it's all the other moving pieces that exhaust you. It's the constant worry, the routine visits to the pediatrician, the scheduling every move around feedings and diaper blow-outs, managing school schedules and the dozens of activities and parties that consume not just your child's life, but your own. Oh, and the laundry. Why doesn't anyone warn you about the endless loads of laundry?

What I've learned is that parenting empties the tank. Being a parent, though, means you need to figure out how to run on empty. And shockingly, I wouldn't trade it for the world.